Recent research indicates that divorce itself may not be damaging to children. Rather, the on-going conflict, anger and unresolved feelings that are exhibited by one or both parents create a great deal of distress in children.

Especially when they are put in the middle, and witness conflicts and arguments or hear you talk negatively about the other parent.

Unless you have been in an abusive relationship, it’s better for the children if both parents participate in the child’s life in a cooperative manner. Children can adjust to a variety of living patterns, including living in two homes. The process is more effective if the parents are working together and are focused on the children’s healthy development. Parents must put their emotional pain aside while they are coming together to discuss, support and respond to the needs of the children.

Divorced Parents: Think About the Kids!